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Monday, September 8, 2008

PLEASE HELP!!!

PLEASE HELP ME!!!


I need some info/help from my twin mommies out there & also all you mommies with singles.

My boys are almost 16 months old now.

My problem is that every time they start fighting over a toy, blanket, bike, etc.

My big man gets frustrated and ends up bitting my little man.

Poor little guy has war wounds all over his little body arms, shoulder, back

I even caught him trying to bite his little face.

He's been put in time out for a bit but he doesn't really get that whole concept yet.

I've spanked his little mouth (softly mind you I'm not a child abuser)

I even bit his little arm just enough that he knew what it felt like.

I just don't know if anyone has any good suggestions out there for me to try.

I have been making him love his brother better & today they were running around in there 

diapers most of the day & every time Gage would see the bite on Kelton's back

he would point to it, & I would say yes that's where you hurt brother & he would go & give him 

another love better.

Please offer me any help you might have I hate it when kids bite & I want to break 

him of this before it becomes habit & he bites other peoples kids.

19 comments:

Coach B. said...

Have you tried a shock collar? It worked wonders for my idiotic lab :)

I honstely can't think of any rational thing to offer you. I don't have enough life experience I guess (something I was told by a customer today).

Good luck with that!

Maternal Mirth said...

He was a little older than your guys, but my oldest was a biter and I tried everything: time-outs, scolding, even Tabasco sauce. But he would just take that hot stuff like a champ - Yum!

Then, after a biting spree at daycare, I said what my mom would have said "Next time, you get the wooden spoon." He had no clue what that was, but he knew I sounded grave.

There was some time that passed, but that threat loomed. And one day CHOMP! he did it again.

He cried the whole way home "No spoooooon! Nooooo spoooooooonn!" He got one painless tap on the toosh, but he never bit again.

For you LITTLE guy, might I suggest my dad's method of toddler torture: The Chair. Instead of a time out, he has to sit in your lap. Arms held to the sides (if he fights it) and sit there until you say he can get up. Worth a shot...

Bonnie the Boss said...

Very common! Just so you know. I used to bite my cousin all the time when we were little. All I had to do was look like I was going to bite her and she would run.
How we got my nephew to quit biting was another cousin who he didn't know very well bit him really hard one day. He quit. I don't know what to tell you they do grow out of it.

mommaof4wife2r said...

i would not do this, mind you, but my hubby's brother used to bite him so badly as a kid that he bled one day. hubby was instructed to bite back. i guess brother never bit again.

i think it's not a good idea...and they got lucky!

:) when my girls bite, they get time out and don't get any treats...everything but food and clothing is a treat, like toys and videos and tv and library, etc. i think each kids works different, so just keep on trying.

Miller's said...

If you find something that works well for you please inform me. Maisey bites me all the time and sometimes really hard to where it really hurts. I feel the same way about you I don't want her biting other kids. I hope you find a solution.

Tiffanie said...

Hi, I know you don't know me, but I went to High School with your husband. He will know me by Tiffanie Butters. I came across your blog and I also have twins that are 14 months old. I just had a episode today of bitting. I put them in my jogging stoller to go for a walk and the next thing I know my boy has his sisters finger in his mouth bitting it hard. The only thing I have tried is to put them in time-out, but I don't think it is working out very well. Let me know if you find something that works!

Crazy Momma said...

Oh boy, tough one....wish I had some advice...good luck to you!

Thanks for stopping by my blog today and sharing some love! I look forward to seeing you around more often!

angie said...

My boys did this with a vengeance......still do occasionally. I think it's the most gratifying way to express their frustration. It's hard when they are too young to know better. I always just tried to re direct their frustration before they bit......not always possible.....I think my boys have had a bruise from a bite continuously for the last year and a half. Seriously.

Are You Serious! said...

♥ That sucks!!! I've tried all of the things you did too and then finally got out the soap and it only took mine 2 times before they decided that it wasn't worth it. On occation they'd try a couple months later and I'd do the soap again and they quit! Of course you have to do quick right after it happens so they KNOW why they're getting the soap. GOOD LUCK!!! :)

Marla said...

Mine didn't bite but my sister's son did. I would make him stand against the wall holding up a piece of paper with his nose. No other part of his body could be touching the wall. If he dropped the paper or another part of his body touched the wall his time would start over. After the third time he never bit my kids again.

Tiffanie said...

I am so glad ou wrote me back. I am going to save your link on my blog. If that is ok? So we can share stories. That salsa recipe looks good, I will have to try it. Thanks!

chellekay said...

G&G are 26 months old and I am still dealing with this. It is less often now. What I did was always tell Gwen (she is my bitter) that she hurt Gilbert and this is bad and put her on the time our chair. I would then love and kiss Gilbert's bite. It is not happening much now days so I am hoping Gwen has out grown it

Mrs. S said...

Moose went through a biting thing but it was mostly to get my attention or food. He only ever bit me.
I'm not really sure how it stopped it just did. I'm sure if you keep at one thing you'll be just fine. Consistency is the key.

Mrs. S said...

Moose went through a biting thing but it was mostly to get my attention or food. He only ever bit me.
I'm not really sure how it stopped it just did. I'm sure if you keep at one thing you'll be just fine. Consistency is the key.

What A Card said...

I found you through SITS, and I'm glad I did. I have 3 year old twins, and my little guy was a BIG biter at about that age. My big guy was always covered in bites.

First, it's just a phase. An annoying phase, but it'll pass.

Here's what I'd do: the biter would be placed immediately in timeout with a stern "No! Biting hurts!" And that's it...no more attention. The child who was bit would get lots of hugs and cuddles and kisses from Mommy. After a minute or two, I'd let the biter out of time out with another reminder "No biting! Biting hurts!"

We also got a book that I think helped: Teeth Are Not For Biting by Elizabeth Verdick.

Good luck!

Britt said...

Oh, I know how frustrating this is! Both my girls were biters, though my oldest quit a lot sooner than my little one. My youngest is almost 15 months, and does the same thing to her 2 1/2 year old sister. I flick her on the mouth, and then when she's done having her fit (she's such a drama queen!) I make her say she's sorry by rubbing her sisters chest or arm. My mom did the same thing (the flick) with my brothers who bit.

My youngest sister was a biter as well, but I just took matters into my own hands back then. I held her over the toilet and threatened to flush her. She never bit me again ;o)

She's getting better about it, but I still see her open that mouth up and charge every now and then. Good luck!

Britt said...

I should have read that comment a bit better before I hit post .. I meant I see my daughter open her mouth and charge not my sister .. my sister is 15 and that would be horribly funny to see! :o)

Melanie said...

My 2 year old bites on occaision. I flick her cheek and send her to her room to sit in the corner.

Hope things get better! Biting is a tough situation. Hopefully they grow out of it fast!

Mom2my9 said...

I have found that there is almost nothing you can do to abolish this behavior. With my son I have just had to watch him like a hawk when he is with other kids, then if he does bite, put him in time out and tell him firmly that he can't do that. I also have to sometimes just make sure he is not in a situation where he is tempted to bite. This stage will go away, I promise you, but I know it's hard! I hope neither of my twins are biters, but we shall see! Good luck to you.

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